Human relationship is vital which
consists of trust, faith, interaction, conflict, forgiveness, reconciliation
and transformation. Have you ever broken heart of any people? Have you been
harsh towards others unwillingly and they tend not to trust you anymore? How
much painful the situation becomes when you try to reconcile? This is all about
relationship.
We do feel sorry for our offence
and ask forgiveness. But even after forgiveness, our expectation of restoration
of the relationship doesn’t get fix completely! That situation becomes
extremely painful to us ever than before! That would a great embarrassment for
us! It is true that we are fallen beings but this is not a ticket for making excuse!
The forgiveness and loving others as we love ourselves are vital for our life! Breaking
someone’s trust and faith seems easier but it is extremely painful to regain
it!
If the relationship is still strained even after
forgiveness, then there is no true forgiveness and no reconciliation.
If there is no trust and confidence in each other even after
forgiveness, then it should be remembered that it is not a reconciliation but
only an agreement.
If there is silence, awkwardness, distance even after
forgiveness, then there is no change, love, and reconciliation.
If we are not in the same situation and relationship even
after forgiveness, then that is not a true forgiveness.
After forgiveness, both parties need to be aware and
conscious about their behavior and conduct otherwise human relationship will
become a game played with fearful emotions.
Even after forgiveness, if we remain stuck in old things,
nothing has changed in us (2 Cor. 5:17).
Remember that after God has
forgiven us, he has called us to maintain the original relationship that was
with Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden! If he had the same mentality as us,
there would be no hope of eternal life for us today (Heb. 8:12). Let's learn
something from him.
Some might object that these are
mere theoretical imaginations and cannot be implemented practically because we
are fallen beings and have a deceitful heart. I do agree! I am not brining
these thoughts as absolute philosophy of life! However, making excuses just
because we are fallen and have immature and deceitful heart is our greatest
trigger point! Our small excuses today in name of our fallen status and heart
can make us backslide even more in future! Making excuses leads us to compromise
in life! We should rather try our best to progress and keep moving in life! Isn’t
God faithful to help and guide us?
Another thing is faith and trust!
The world is running on trust and
faith! A bus charge collector will not check your money first and asks you to
enter the bus because he believes that you will pay the fare after reaching
your destination. Students are sent to school with the belief that they will
learn something from the teachers in various subjects and they are left in the
trust of the teachers! Faith and trust are indispensable things that once
broken are very difficult to maintain! Breaking someone's trust and confidence
is a great shame and humiliation for us. If someone doesn't trust and believe
us, that's no more difference than our character assassination! In such a
situation, there is no one to understand our things, there is no one to entrust
us with some work, and no one values us. What greater other insults and
punishments would be than this?
But even in such a situation, we
should not stop trusting and believing in others and working with them or for
them. Because of this, they will be able to understand our situation and even
if they don't believe us, it will be revealed from our faith that we accept our
mistakes and want to change and reconcile. These things are inevitable in
forgiveness and human relations.
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